I was raised with the be strong and don't let them see you cry mentality. There wasn't much to the discipline style but "the look". We knew that my mom would follow through if need be.
Because that was all I knew and I felt it worked that was also my discipline style. Charlie loves this commercial but I say I have a better "look". I added "go your room" (my kind of time out I guess) and "try that again", I had them do a lot of " do-overs". There was not an official time out or the as my dad called it the "Let's Make A Deal" where you talk it out, I didn't do it because I was the mom and you do it MY way.
Then there were the embarrassing episodes that made the look work for both my mom and myself. The times that we would explode because we sucked it up ourselves for so long that we would explode. Usually with some yelling & screaming, Something or someone usually got hit or thrown and it ended with us walking away knowing we had been sucking it up but not dealing with it very well.
I thought those days were past for me but this past week end I exploded and did some yelling at both my DIL's and my son. Nothing was thrown or hit but two small children were witness to it and for that I am horrified. For that I apologized to everyone.
In the end our kids to spite or because of what we did ended up pretty good and I think my brothers & sisters turned out good too. Now we turn it over to the next generation. Whether it's time out or "Let.s Make A Deal" (does anyone even remember that show any more?)
Now a days it's not so much about needing to be in charge. I just want the little ones never to be sad. I don.t worry so much about what kind of adult they will grow up to be, I just love them
Update: after discussing this with Jennifer she says she doesn't remember me ever loosing control so I asked her why the "look" worked and she said she just didn't want to disappoint me. Wow . . .